Money is Emotional Meeting with The Financial Lifegaurd

Money is Emotional Meeting with The Financial Lifegaurd

It’s Day 226  of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and one of the highlights of my work day was a Money is Emotional lunch meeting with the author of the book, The Financial Lifeguard, Christine Luken. Christine is a certified financial coach and is  building her business in a way I want to emulate. She launched the book last year and it has done so well that she just finished the first draft of its sequel, Manage Money Like a Boss, with creatives and entrepreneurs – like me! – as the target audience. This Pink Collar Savvy & Chic author, coach and speaker is maximizing her first book, which is exactly what I hope to do with my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul.  Meeting with The Financial Lifeguard reinforced how female entrepreneurs must balance our desire to serve others with the need to produce sustainable income. Money really is emotional!

Though Christine’s book is non-fiction, and mine is fiction drawn from real life experiences, I hope to be able to use it as a platform to coach and speak around the Ds, like the domestic violence the main character, Lee, faces. And I’ve already started the preliminary writing process of laying out the story’s map – another highlight of my day but completed in the wee hours way before my actual work day began! Christine was excited to hear that as she is currently reading Seasons of Her Soul. It was encouraging to hear how it grabbed her from the very beginning, especially coming from an author with a successful nonfiction book under her belt and who doesn’t read contemporary fiction!  I’m hopeful she’ll do a review and I plan to reciprocate by writing one on the signed copy she gifted me with today.

We also discussed collaborating to support each other’s work and to refer our clients. Christine specializes in one of the Ds – debt; and she encounters professional women who could use my holistic Swan Experience to minimize other barriers and to maximize their beauty and best personal and professional lives. Besides, good coaches don’t try to do it all but have a network of referral resources…Our conversation was so packed with helpful insights and inspiration that the time flew by so quickly I forgot to snap our pic!

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Me, Pink Collar Coach. Ruffled shoulder beige sweater & faux suede skirt. BOOTS WITH THE FUR are some oldies but goodies and prevented me from biting it on the ice.                                           Love the pattern on the handbag.                                                                                                                                      All Calvin Klein from TJMaxx. Money is Emotional available on website below.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose life coach, author, and speaker, it was so refreshing to meet with another one where there were no hidden agendas – and there was definitely no hating. We shared openly and were transparent about ups and downs and how we run our businesses in a way that allows us to make money doing what we love, maintains the dignity of our clients and glorifies the God we both serve. Considering how great the time was and the fact that each of us have some follow up steps, I’ve got a feeling this won’t be the last Money is Emotional, or Manage Life a Boss meeting I’ll have with The Financial Lifeguard.

Are you drowning in financial dire straights? The Financial Lifeguard can rescue you and restore your dignity. Please visit her website at http://www.Christineluken.com.

Also, if you are interested in previewing or purchasing the print or Kindle version of Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon at:

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Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

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Dumping The Ds (Pink Collar Challenges)

Dumping The Ds (Pink Collar Challenges)

It’s Day 225 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project has me feeling like it’s time for me to do a dump of the Ds.  As a life coach who uses a holistic coaching approach to facilitate The Swan Experience: Minimizing barriers; maximizing women’s beauty and best professional lives through total transformation, I specialize in the Ds. Ds are the challenges Pink Collar women face that can negatively impact personal or professional performance. In doing so, I prevent derailing and promote Swans living their best savvy & chic lives on the home front and in the workplace. That being the case, I shouldn’t be surprised that the D behind most challenges – the devil – doesn’t like what I’m trying to do, or me for that matter, and is going to do everything in his power to destroy me at best and discourage me at the least. I felt this intensely today and know it’s time to dump the Ds.

When I was the director of a life coaching program that supported at risk individuals in removing barriers to their sustainable success, one of the most impactful steps on their  journey was “Letting Go of the Past”, better known as “The Dump”. During the process, coachees were given the opportunity to write down the negative things that have happened in their life on a post-it. Next, they were encouraged to share each post-it, then to throw it into the center of the room. At the end of the time, all of the post-its containing the negative events were taken outside and burned, which symbolized letting them go.

This simulated dump serves two purposes: 1) It allows me to put the challenges I’m facing down so I can let them go, 2) It provides you with a list of the challenges I write about and coach around.

Ds

  • Dysfunction
  • Drug and alcohol exposure (and/or abuse)
  • Domestic violence
  • Depression
  • Desperation
  • Deception
  • Destitution
  • Divorce
  • Domestic relations court and issues
  • Disobedient children
  • Delinquent preteens and teens
  • Diagnoses
  • Diet and weight issues
  • Debt
  • Death
  • Derailing
  • Discrimination
  • Disenfranchisement
  • Disasters
  • Disappointment
  • Discouragement
  • Drama

Now that I’ve made this list, I feel a bit better because I’m not dealing with everything on it! It puts things into perspective and frees me to let go of them. Also, a problem shared is half solved, so I appreciate being able to share with you. Hopefully if you or someone in your life is dealing with any of these Ds, I hope you’ll give yourself permission to let them go. I encourage you to talk to someone who is psychologically safe (won’t judge you, minimize your challenges, tell you what to do – just listens actively and openly).

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As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Pink Collar Coach, I admit today I needed a dose of my own medicine while dealing with my Ds. I needed to minimize barriers and to maximize the beauty and best things in my life personally and professionally. Like my husband, home, and debut novel (now there’s an awesome D!). And rather than focusing on the little d, the devil, I need to focus on GOD, my DELIVERER, who brings me out of them all. Dumping my Ds was just what the Good Doctor ordered.

How about you? Are you dealing with some of the challenges listed above? Do you need to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and dump your Ds?

Be    savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview or purchase my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon for the print or Kindle version at:

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Thank you!

 

It’s Beginning to Look A Lot Like A Savvy & Chic Christmas Series – Children’s Bathroom & Childlike Faith

It’s Beginning to Look A Lot Like A Savvy & Chic Christmas Series – Children’s Bathroom & Childlike Faith

It’s Day 201 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and though I didn’t post yesterday, I’m still making it begin to look a lot like Christmas in my children’s bathroom while exercising childlike faith. While my Friday was productive, spent primarily working on professional tasks and meeting with my book launch coach, I felt discouraged (another D or challenge) about some personal matters. Then, after wrapping up my work, I finally got around to doing my daily devotional. It was entitled “Childlike Faith” and spoke specifically to discouragement. It stated that a child’s faith in God knows no doubt. The prayer at the end asked that God give the kind of faith that doesn’t give up despite discouragement, and that trusts like a child would. I’ve always had that kind of faith but yesterday I felt it waver. After praying that God would renew it, my spirits lifted immediately! I should know by now not to delay doing my devotion! With my childlike faith restored, I set a Santa with silver glitter on top of a cabinet and his smiling presence made it look a lot like a Savvy & Chic Christmas in my children’s bathroom.

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Santa fits in perfectly in my daughter and son’s bathroom. The room has putty colored walls, but with the addition of lots of white, silver, and Shabby Chic touches, I’ve learned to live with it. 
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This standard builder grade light fixture came with the house. I always intended to replace it, but somehow the addition of vintage style Edison style bulbs modernized it. Now I love it! The Spode Vintage Denim pattern plate and matching bowl ended up mysteriously broken. Rather than toss them, I Gorilla glued. The plate hangs above the light & the bowl sits nearby where Santa stands. 

Today, I remained in good spirits. For one thing, I  not only got to dance, I got to lead class. Our wonderful instructor had car problems, so I got the class warmed up with two songs. Invigorating and excruciating is how I’d describe it! I’m still not back to full strength…But more than anything, it was just pure joy. I ALWAYS feel better, at least emotionally, when I’m dancing. : ) And no matter what my body feels like during, I never regret pushing through the pain. Hanging out with my hubby tonight was good for me too. From the beginning, he’s admired my childlike faith, so when I’m with him, I try to focus on the positive. He truly brings out the best in me.

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A sign from my She Storage Shed. It was a TJMaxx find about a quarter century ago. 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose holiday decorating enthusiast, a through and through Zumba lover, and a child of God, I thought blogging about holiday decor would be a lighthearted endeavor. But it has called up some emotions I try hard to suppress. Dancing really does help. Still, the truth of it is, the holidays can be hard. I admit that not to discourage, but to encourage. Sometimes, we have to acknowledge our feelings and cry out for help  during the hard (I cried buckets yesterday) in order to get the encouragement we need. Because just as we parents and lovers of the children in our lives long to give them good things, like a bathroom that’s beginning to look a lot like a Savvy & Chic Christmas, God longs to bless us, His precious children. Call out to him with the faith of a child. He’s a good, good Father, and will answer.

Are you facing the D of discouragement this holiday season? Be of good courage – the opposite of discouraged – it’s the season of good tidings of great joy! Baby Jesus was born!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

It’s Beginning to Look A Lot Like A Savvy & Chic Christmas Series – Girl’s Room – Part 2

It’s Beginning to Look A Lot Like A Savvy & Chic Christmas Series – Girl’s Room – Part 2

It’s Day 199 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and while I would have loved to spend the early part of the day making it look a lot more like Christmas in my teen girl’s room, the bulk of the day was spent trying to catch up on all the professional tasks that went by the wayside while I was sick. Working on a giveaway for those who sign up for my mailing list (I hope you will!) and on my book launch homework were among the things I accomplished. By the time I was able to turn my attention to more decorating in my daughter’s room, the sun had begun to fade. This turned out to be a positive as it tested my newbie photography skills. Using my iPhone, I tried some new things and am must confess I’m pleasantly surprised with the nostalgic look of the photos, which lend themselves to my Shabby Chic, vintage style. With the addition of a Shabby Chic inspired wreath fashioned from pastel ornaments and a small white table tree with a Simply Shabby Chic skirt, the room looks a lot like a girl’s room from a Christmas of yesteryear.

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A quintessentially Shabby Chic girl’s room with bohemian flair. The bedding, curtains, lamps, tree skirt and wall decor are from Target’s Simply Shabby Chic line. Most of the items are no longer available, except on eBay, so I’m glad I purchased them when I did. I found the chair at an antique store, painted it, and added a Simply Shabby Chic cushion.                                                         The tree will get a few ornaments next.

Speaking of nostalgia and yesteryear, anyone who reads my posts knows I’m divorced from my children’s father. For many of us in this situation, the holidays can be hard. Even in the age of starter marriages, prenuptial agreements and blended families, most of us didn’t set out to have children with someone we loved only to have them with us only part of the time. That means there was a Christmas years ago when the future seemed bright for our family together, but it wasn’t to be. Now I’d love to have my daughter go to sleep in this lovely room every night and wake up here every morning.  That said, I believe God allows us to go through things for a reason. Mine is so I can encourage and inspire other women facing this challenge or other personal ones, to try to minimize the negative aspects of the situation and to maximize the positives. For me that means decorating the room with all the love I have for her so that my daughter will feel this is home when she is here. Also, Izzy, my stepson’s daughter, loves it in here and plays with the toys visible in the Simply Shabby Chic laundry basket turned toy box.

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This photo looks like an old one from a time gone by. So sweet and sentimental.
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The Simply Shabby Chic chandelier lends a soft glow to the wreath. Though natural light is best for photos, there’s something ethereal about this one that spoke to me. My daughter’s American Girl doll, seated in a corner of the daybed, was a Christmas present when she was ten.  

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Christmas decorating enthusiast, I love making every space in my home, even those that are not always occupied, beautiful for the holidays. Because even though it sometimes feels as if we’re premature semi-empty nesters sometimes, my husband and I are always here. You see, I’m a nest featherer who was created to feather my families’ nest, whatever it looks like, whoever it holds. That includes my office and workspace. If you’re anything like me, rather than closing doors on empty rooms, I want to see them so I can remember and pray for the vacant occupant. And who’d rather look at an undecorated, uninviting room or workspace when you can make it look a lot like Christmas, for a girl, a boy, a co-worker, or just yourself?

Maybe you’re dealing with a D – a challenge. You’re divorced, separated, single, never married, widowed, etc. Perhaps you’re an empty nester. Or you work for Ebenezer Scrooge. How can you still be Savvy & Chic on Purpose with your space to make it look a lot like Christmas?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

A Mom on Memes and Messes

A Mom on Memes and Messes

It’s Day 186 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and as a mom, I’d love to just post a meme instead of talking about the messes in my life. I confess I’d never heard the word meme until a Christian DJ mentioned it on the radio. With my love of words, of course I looked it up. According to Wikipedia “A meme (/ˈmm/ MEEM) is an idea, behavior, or style that spreads from person to person within a culture — often with the aim of conveying a particular phenomenon, theme, or meaning represented by the meme.” The DJ referenced the popularity of images with a person standing on a mountaintop, arms outstretched high to depict the Christian life. He intimated this meme conveys if you have faith your life will always be a perfect mountaintop experience. As a faith-filled mom who is divorced from my children’s father, being a mother doesn’t doesn’t always look like the meme or feel like mountaintop. Much of the time, it’s more like a mess. 

But I feel it’s taboo to admit that. I agree with the DJ’s assessment of that mountaintop meme. It makes people of faith feel we have to always sound, look and even feel like we’re standing on top of the world. We don’t want to talk about the valleys. It got me thinking about social media. Most of the images we post on Facebook, Instagram, or LinkedIn are the picturesque ones. Those that look like we have our personal and professional lives all together. We post the memes. And for bloggers? We often post the best pictures of our children, clothes, events and homes. Not for the first time, I wonder how this makes others feel. When I rush around picking up books, papers, toys, and take several shots to make sure my hair, makeup and outfit are just right, am I sending out the message that my life is perfect? That I’m living the meme?

That’s the last thing I want to do. The whole reason I started my blog was to coach, encourage and inspire women to live their best personal and professional lives. Over time, that has evolved to include dealing with the Ds – the Pink Collar challenges women face, be it on the home front or in the workplace – and minimizing them to maximize your beauty and best life. I never intended for minimizing to promote depicting a pretty, perfect meme. Living your best life doesn’t mean it won’t be messy. Like my life as a mom is right now.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach after a hard mommy conversation. For once I didn’t straighten up the room and just asked my sweet hubby to catch the moment as it was. Messy bun, rumpled slipcover, toys under the table, electric chords, and all.                                                                 Calvin Klein trumpet sleeve sweater, leggings, socks with boots, and handbag. 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Cygnet (I’m still growing into the fullness of who I was created to be), sometimes I long to live the meme… My Ds – divorce, domestic relations court, and DJ (not the disc jockey but my wasband) make my life as a mom so messy. I wish I could always stand on the mountaintop, looking pretty (pre-hysterectomy), with my house perfect (white painted stone wall, wood plank tiles, marble counter tops, etc.), my professional life on track for success, and my personal relationship with my children what I dreamed for us once upon a time…Then I remember. The Lord is the God of the hills and the valleys. He sees me  and is over my life. He remains the same when it looks like the meme and He still blesses when it’s a mess. I’ll take those messy times because it’s in them I can hear Him whisper across the surface of my heart, Beautiful the mess you are.

What about you? Do you wish you were living the meme but feel you’re more of a mess? Remember you are loved and if you hang in there, you can be blessed – even in the mess.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Giving Thanks to the Lord for Good Test Results and Looking Forward to Getting Back to Life and Reality

Giving Thanks to the Lord for Good Test Results and Looking Forward to Getting Back to Life and Reality

Day 180 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project was one spent having procedures to determine why I’ve been so sick for the past month and giving thanks to the Lord for good test results! Now I’m looking forward to getting back to life and reality. And while the doctor’s orders were that today be a lazy day, I wanted to take a moment to thank all of you who have read about my medical challenges/Ds and reached out with well wishes and prayers. You readers are part of my resilience strategy and the blog has helped me bounce back. Both have played a role in me getting better because I didn’t want to renege on my promise to post daily (I did miss a few…). Nor did I want to lose those of you who have been kind enough to stick with me while I’ve been sick, even if you were sick of hearing about it!

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Shabby Chic inspired Thanksgiving decor from TJMaxx – last season.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Cygnet, I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired! So while I’m thankful for today’s test results and hopeful the rest of them will come back good, I’m ready for a new day. I’m not 100%, but I’m laying claim to the verse in a song I used to teach in Kids Club:

And now let the sick say I am healed

Because of what the Lord has done for us!

That being the case, tomorrow, I plan to get back to life and back to reality. Completing revisions for my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul in order for it to be released in January, focusing on my business, including rescheduling and scheduling coaching sessions, returning to Zumba and starting to teach (yes!), and planning for my next workshops are only a few of the things while I was down. Excited as I am about all that, being able to get out and about to post pictures to accompany what content I hope you love is what motivates me. That and glorifying  the Lord to whom I owe, and give, so much thanks.

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Give Thanks to the Lord pumpkins flank front porch stairs.                                                         Not only are they pretty and welcoming, they remind others to have grateful hearts.

What situation have you come through, medical, personal, professional or otherwise, for which you are thankful? How can you be savvy & chic on purpose about expressing that thanks?

 

Feeling Grateful for First Full Day Out with Family, Food, and Fun

Feeling Grateful for First Full Day Out with Family, Food, and Fun

Day 178 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project is my first full day out and about since I got sick nearly a month ago, so I looked forward to spending it with family, eating good food, and having fun. After reading several articles in the newest edition of Artful Blogging and a chapter of my latest novel last night, I slept relatively well and awakened feeling more like myself than I have for weeks. So much so that I did some juege-ing in the laundry room to make it more inviting (will post pics when I pull it together), then did a little holiday/ gift shopping. By the time I needed to head over to the family birthday party, I still had plenty of energy. And though I ate a bit of pizza, I was cautious and didn’t add my usual peppers or peppercorns. My hubby and I also split a nice salad. It was so fun celebrating my youngest sister-in-law’s birthday, especially since I’ve had very little socialization as of late.

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Family, Food and Fun. Pink Collar Coach in the middle.                                                               Calvin Klein peacock trumpet sleeve sweater, jeggings, & brown wedge boots with a peacock handbag. Hubby and his sister were the photographers and are not pictured.

One of the articles in Artful Blogging was about developing an attitude of gratitude. It reminded me of an old saying I used to hear around the church where I grow up, that went something like “You don’t know how good it feels to be well until you’ve been sick.” This isn’t the first time in my life I’ve been really sick, but because of my blog, I’m more mindful of the experience. And I believe I’m more grateful to be feeling better than I may have been in the past.

Not only was I more mindful of that, but I was keenly aware of the season my husband’s niece is in. Like mine, her girl and boy are close in age. I’ve always referred to my daughter and son, who are only nineteen months apart, as my Irish twins. Because of a divorce and changes with parenting time, they aren’t around for many family get-togethers, but I vividly remember the days when I was exhausted and overwhelmed with mothering very young children. This made me intentional asking how mom is doing and offering to lend a hand any time she needs it. My prayer is that this sweet young couple and their children never experience the ravages of divorce. But even if they remain as tightly knit together as they are right now, I hope they can see past the fog of exhaustion and being overwhelmed to hold on to the memories that make up the threads of this precious, fleeting time. The late nights, the chaotic days, and all the mess makes up the beautiful tapestry of their lives.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Chic who is dealing with medical challenges, I’m thankful for them because they bring gratitude. And clarity. They also make me want to capture it all in a way that I, my children and my family can look back and remember. Writing about my first full day out and about with family, food, and fun may not sound blog-worthy, but maybe, just maybe, someone will read my words and see the pictures I’ve included and it will encourage or inspire them. Somehow, it may even point someone to God. If that happens, then it’s worthy after all.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach