“It’s Beginning To Look A Lot Like a Savvy & Chic Christmas” Series – Girl’s Room

“It’s Beginning To Look A Lot Like a Savvy & Chic Christmas” Series – Girl’s Room

It’s Day 199 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and it’s also the third post in the “It’s Beginning To Look Like A Savvy & Chic Christmas” series, with today’s focus being a girl’s room, my daughter’s in particular.  Hers is probably my favorite room in the house. Until a few years ago, it was pure Shabby Chic, but when she hit her tweens she wanted bohemian elements infused. Shabby Boho is how I’d describe it now. It’s the perfect backdrop for my Savvy & Chic Christmas decorating style, which is inspired by quintessential Shabby Chic and vintage decor. I thoroughly enjoyed cleaning and then decorating this space today and watching it begin to look like a Savvy & Chic Christmas in my girl’s room.

Originally my daughter and son shared a room when I married my hubby and we moved into the house with him and my three stepsons seven years ago. Then three years ago, my middle stepson headed off to college, my “surrogate” son moved into an apartment with my oldest stepson, and my youngest stepson moved to the lower level bedroom. All this change freed up a room so the two youngest could have their own rooms. Once that happened, unlike all of the other rooms which are either communal (i.e. living, dining, kitchen, bathrooms, etc.) or shared spaces (i.e. master bedroom, my son’s room/occassionally older boys’ room too, and children’s bathrooms) where I inherited some furnishings and decor, her room presented a perfectly clean slate (other than a blue and yellow tulip wallpaper border along the baseboard – I never knew such a thing existed!) Eventually I’ll tackle the unfortunate border, but since it’s not visible, the room looks gorgeous decked out for Christmas!

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I’ve always been a bit obsessed with pink Santas. Even though he’s carrying a green tree (not my fave) I love it with his gloves. I found the trees with their pastel ornaments and they’re perfect with this Santa. A tree on the nightstand is visible in the Shabby Chic-Inspired mirror.                 Such a sweet look for a girl’s room. 
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Atop a vintage nightstand I purchased long before she was born sits my daughter’s picture in a Simply Shabby Chic frame. Surrounded by small trees, with a Simply Shabby Chic Kids lamp, house bank, an etched mirrored vase (actually a toothbrush holder with the lid removed), and pale pink roses, this is such a pretty Christmas vignette.  
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The last of the Christmas trees (Hobby Lobby) on display in this corner of my daughter’s room where a bit of her Shabby Boho spirit is evident. As soon as she expressed an interest in it, I found the Shabby Chic dream catcher on Ebay and snatched it up for a song. The Simply Shabby Chic lamp shade, dress nightlight, and more roses make for a cohesive, collected look, at Christmas and all year.                                                                                                                                      My children are “besties”, so both have pics of the other in their rooms. 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Christmas decorating enthusiast, I hope you’re enjoying this series as much as I am writing it. Whether you’re enamored with Shabby Chic style or not, the point of Savvy & Chic style is to own your personal decorating sense of style, whatever it is. If you love traditional holiday decor, go for it. If ultra modern  is your thing, do it with gusto. Just love what you do and have fun doing it. Make your home and your workspace what you want it to be so that you can celebrate this Christmas season in a setting that is beautiful, comfortable and functional for you and yours or for those popping by your office or cubicle. Perhaps that could mean placing a Pink santa or pastel ornaments in a girl’s room or your office to make it look a lot like Christmas…

Is it beginning to look a lot like a Savvy & Chic Christmas at your house? At work? I’d love to hear from you. And who knows, you could even win a little Christmas present…

Be  savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

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Fashion, A Feast, And A Family Friendly Film That Left Me Feeling Full of “Wonder”

Fashion, A Feast, And A Family Friendly Film That Left Me Feeling Full of “Wonder”

It’s Day 193 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and it’s Thanksgiving Day. For a woman who’s been too sick to leave the house this week, it was packed with fashion, a feast, and a family friendly film that left me feeling full of wonder. While my immediate blended family celebrated early Thanksgiving last Sunday, today was spent with my husband’s family. I slept until eleven AM to have enough stamina to make it through the day and boy did I need the rest to make it through all the festivities!

For a lady who loves an excuse to dress up, it was so much fun donning festive holiday attire to wear to our niece’s gorgeous home which was decorated beautifully for the occassion. My sisters-in-law are all great cooks, and one of our nieces’s makes a mean mac and cheese (I try to avoid lots of dairy and didn’t indulge in that). Since I’ve been out of commission, my hubby and I provided drinks and store bought desserts – but there were no complaints! With my stepsons and children with their other parent, for once we all fit around the table and enjoyed a fabulous feast catching up with family.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach in Calvin Klein faux leather sheath dress and jacket. The rich eggplant color and green put a fresh spin on fall colors. Calvin Klein handbag and booties.
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Sheath sans jacket. Have added some layers to my hair in the front. Getting used to the look.      As much as I take pictures for the blog, I tend to hide my post-hysterectomy body behind hair… So this is a stretch.

Because our niece and nephew have young children and he still had to make it to his family’s gathering (mom stayed in with the infant and toddler), the evening ended fairly early. Having been sick and shut in for so long, I wasn’t quite ready to call it a night. Reluctantly, my hubby agreed to go see the movie “Wonder” with me. I won’t do a review here since I covered “The Star” last night, but I will say my often reticent husband had plenty to say about this film which is based on a popular children’s novel. Though I could discuss any number of emotions the film evoked for me, wonder seems the most fitting today.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose mom who gave birth to my children never expecting we wouldn’t spend every holiday together, I’m in wonder that Lord is gracious and merciful enough toward me that I can still enjoy the children in my life and be thankful for them today. As a divorced wife of an abusive wasband, I’m in wonder that God answered my prayer for a godly husband in the form of my best friend, for whom I am eternally grateful. As a child whose earthly father was taken far too young and whose  family is so dysfunctional that I don’t have much to do with them, I’m in wonder that God has adopted me into His family and calls me His precious daughter. Considering all of this, it’s no wonder that I’m full of wonder this Thanksgiving.

What about you? What has you full of wonder this Thanksgiving?

Be savvy & chic,

  ~Pink collar Coach

 

 

A Mom on Memes and Messes

A Mom on Memes and Messes

It’s Day 186 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and as a mom, I’d love to just post a meme instead of talking about the messes in my life. I confess I’d never heard the word meme until a Christian DJ mentioned it on the radio. With my love of words, of course I looked it up. According to Wikipedia “A meme (/ˈmm/ MEEM) is an idea, behavior, or style that spreads from person to person within a culture — often with the aim of conveying a particular phenomenon, theme, or meaning represented by the meme.” The DJ referenced the popularity of images with a person standing on a mountaintop, arms outstretched high to depict the Christian life. He intimated this meme conveys if you have faith your life will always be a perfect mountaintop experience. As a faith-filled mom who is divorced from my children’s father, being a mother doesn’t doesn’t always look like the meme or feel like mountaintop. Much of the time, it’s more like a mess. 

But I feel it’s taboo to admit that. I agree with the DJ’s assessment of that mountaintop meme. It makes people of faith feel we have to always sound, look and even feel like we’re standing on top of the world. We don’t want to talk about the valleys. It got me thinking about social media. Most of the images we post on Facebook, Instagram, or LinkedIn are the picturesque ones. Those that look like we have our personal and professional lives all together. We post the memes. And for bloggers? We often post the best pictures of our children, clothes, events and homes. Not for the first time, I wonder how this makes others feel. When I rush around picking up books, papers, toys, and take several shots to make sure my hair, makeup and outfit are just right, am I sending out the message that my life is perfect? That I’m living the meme?

That’s the last thing I want to do. The whole reason I started my blog was to coach, encourage and inspire women to live their best personal and professional lives. Over time, that has evolved to include dealing with the Ds – the Pink Collar challenges women face, be it on the home front or in the workplace – and minimizing them to maximize your beauty and best life. I never intended for minimizing to promote depicting a pretty, perfect meme. Living your best life doesn’t mean it won’t be messy. Like my life as a mom is right now.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach after a hard mommy conversation. For once I didn’t straighten up the room and just asked my sweet hubby to catch the moment as it was. Messy bun, rumpled slipcover, toys under the table, electric chords, and all.                                                                 Calvin Klein trumpet sleeve sweater, leggings, socks with boots, and handbag. 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Cygnet (I’m still growing into the fullness of who I was created to be), sometimes I long to live the meme… My Ds – divorce, domestic relations court, and DJ (not the disc jockey but my wasband) make my life as a mom so messy. I wish I could always stand on the mountaintop, looking pretty (pre-hysterectomy), with my house perfect (white painted stone wall, wood plank tiles, marble counter tops, etc.), my professional life on track for success, and my personal relationship with my children what I dreamed for us once upon a time…Then I remember. The Lord is the God of the hills and the valleys. He sees me  and is over my life. He remains the same when it looks like the meme and He still blesses when it’s a mess. I’ll take those messy times because it’s in them I can hear Him whisper across the surface of my heart, Beautiful the mess you are.

What about you? Do you wish you were living the meme but feel you’re more of a mess? Remember you are loved and if you hang in there, you can be blessed – even in the mess.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

“Wicked” on a Wednesday Night – What a Wonderful Twist on “The Wizard of Oz”!

“Wicked” on a Wednesday Night – What a Wonderful Twist on “The Wizard of Oz”!

It’s Day 156 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, but unlike most Wednesday nights, I just got in from an amazing night on the town seeing “Wicked”. On a whim, I asked one of my Zumba friends if she wanted to go with me and she and her teenage daughter jumped at the change. Rather than dancing side by side like we usually do, we attended the midweek production at the Aronoff and sat together in seats that put us in a great position to truly enjoy the show. And I couldn’t have asked for better company. Jane loves “The Wizard of Oz” and was as enthralled as I was with this award winning Broadway musical that tells the behind the scenes story of The Wicked Witch of the West and Glenda the Good.

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Pink Collar Coach in all red. Calvin Klein trumpet sleeve dress, bag and booties.

Madison, me and Jane inside the Aronoff and outside after the show.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Chick who loves drama, musicals, and dance, I won’t give away the plot but will tell you this show has it all and puts a wonderful twist on “The Wizard of Oz”. So, if you love stories that make you think, feel, and possibly change your perspective, I suggest you give this one a try. The title truly doesn’t do it justice. In fact, I suspect if you’re anything like me, you’ll find it’s anything but wicked…

Be  savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

 

 

Collaborating and Creating My Selling Style in Coral Calvin Klein

Collaborating and Creating My Selling Style in Coral Calvin Klein

Day 155 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project got off to a slow start. For the past few days I haven’t felt the greatest, so today I slept in until after 9:00. Once up, I was productive, however, and responded to a pleasantly surprising number of likes and comments on whether I should offer Mary Kay products as part of my image coaching. Thank you to everyone who weighed in! Next, I buckled down and located some of the passages in my novel that have been slated for revision. After procrastinating on this task for days, I got so engrossed in it that I had to rush when I realized it was time to get ready for an H7 Evolve meeting. That being the case, I grabbed an easy care shirt dress out of the dryer and rushed out for Coffee and Collaborate and “Create Your Selling Style” wearing coral Calvin Klein.

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Coral shirt dress, gold lame cardigan, taupe sling backs and floral bag. All oldies. All Calvin Klein from TJMaxx. My photographer didn’t catch that my dress was gaping. Oops!

Brenda Aveyard, a speaker, trainer, and coach facilitated the meeting, which offered an opportunity to collaborate around a challenge being faced in our business. The other women in the group listened and suggested action steps, as well as providing some resources to complete them. Multiple perspectives were helpful in gaining clarity around goals for my coaching business and it felt great to support other likeminded entrepreneurs.

Following Coffee and Collaborate, Brenda presented a short workshop on “Creating Your Selling Style”. During the introduction, as she told the story of how she came to be a Sales Coach, I was thrilled to hear that she is a former top Sales Director for Mary Kay! That felt like confirmation. Then she went on to explain how she doesn’t coach on anything she hasn’t lived through, and I knew I was in the right place. For the last few weeks, ever since I started reading Christy Wright’s Business Boutique, I’ve been honing in on my target audience/market. Brenda called it my avatar client. Recently I realized it’s professional women who are facing the Ds, all of which I’ve lived through. More confirmation.

Brenda spent the remainder of the time providing valuable insight and information on how to deal with our internal barriers in order to get what we have to offer our prospective clients to them. I so needed to hear that! After all, my coaching services are no good if I don’t have coachees, so I need to get over myself and go coach! Brenda proceeded to give practical tips on how to do that. This will also help if I move forward and carry Mary Kay…I got so much from her presentation in such a short time that I’d like to share the info on an upcoming event below:

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As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Chick who understands the power of collaboration and multiple perspectives, I’m taking advantage of every opportunity I can to learn and develop professionally and surround myself with women who are where I want to go. And I won’t lie. I’m loving it. Today, as I rushed from the above meeting to Zumba and was late due to horrendous traffic, I was thankful not to have the 45 minute to an hour commute I had before. In that moment, I was truly grateful to be living the professional life I am right now. Don’t get me wrong, starting a business and making a go of it is not all meetings where I get to dress up, meet at a nice venue and listen to a dynamic speaker. But when it is, life feels pretty sweet collaborating and creating my selling style – all while wearing coral Calvin Klein.

What about you? How could collaboration help you with your personal or professional challenges or goals? What about your selling style? You may not classify yourself as in sales, but if you work with people, you’re a salesperson!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

Purposeful in Pink & Pondering Mary Kay Cosmetics as a Product

Purposeful in Pink & Pondering Mary Kay Cosmetics as a Product

Day 154 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project started early with a meeting to explore an idea I’ve toyed with on and off for a while. As a girly girl who loves pink and makeup, I’ve always been drawn to Mary Kay Cosmetics. That being the case, when I met a Mary Kay Sales Director at my Evolve networking event, I voiced my interest in learning more about how Mary Kay might work for my image coaching and we scheduled to meet this morning. I decided to be purposeful in pink to honor one of America’s greatest entrepreneurs and I’ve been pondering whether to offer Mary Kay Cosmetics as a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic product ever since.

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Pink Collar Coach, purposeful in pink. Calvin Klein fuchsia shirt dress, bone pumps and pink bag.

In graduate school, I researched Mary Kay Ash as part of my capstone project. My final paper was entitled: “Pink Collar Strategy to Shatter the Glass Ceiling: Entrepreneurialism as a Sledgehammer”. Mary Kay left the male dominated corporate world and founded the company as a way to help other women be successful. Its principles are God first, family second and career third. This so aligns with my values and the image coaching facet of my business. And the freedom and flexibility the company offers fit into my dream “portfolio career” where I’m doing all the things I love on my terms vs. working for others. While all of this is good for me, I believe it could be great for the women I coach, personally and professionally.

Thus far, when I’ve done image coaching sessions, I’ve taken clients to Sephora (and Target in a pinch because the request was added on to go with an out of town client’s new wardrobe!). It seems to make sense that I’d carry products so the image coaching sessions can take place in my home/office, the client’s home, or at the Mary Kay Studio here in town (I didn’t know that existed until today!). That would provide more opportunity for proper makeup application so the look can be replicated at home. And I’m hopeful that doing the demonstrations and providing the products in a more relaxed setting will put clients more at ease.

Really, I’m trying to be purposeful about what I now call, “The Swan Experience”. For those who request a stand alone cosmetics makeover or one to complement the wardrobe makeover, the transformation would simply include cosmetics I carry rather than clients purchasing products from a retailer and paying the marked up prices to cover their overhead expenses. In addition, I’d be able to offer complimentary products and services. It seems like a win win! And, surprisingly, my hubby volunteered that he’s on board should I decide to move forward.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Chick who is building her business to serve you,   I’d love your input. I’m not asking if you think I should “sell” Mary Kay. My question is more if if you were interested in an image coaching session, would you enjoy having the products on hand to try in a comfortable, private setting? I’m trying to be purposeful and provide your preferences, so I appreciate you helping me ponder whether to offer Mary Kay Cosmetics as a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic product. Thank you!

P.S. If you weigh in and I move forward, there may be some giveaways!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Make New Friends But Don’t Lose The Old

Make New Friends But Don’t Lose The Old

Yesterday, Day 151 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project started off rough. I had plans for the weekend to dance with my Zumba tribe Friday night and to do lunch with a dear friend from my teaching days today. Thursday night, however, I developed a sore throat. When I woke up yesterday morning after a fitful night’s sleep with what felt like the beginning of a cold, my first thought was, No, tonight’s Zumba for the Cure! My second was, And I’m supposed to have lunch with Terri tomorrow! Considering the week I’ve had dealing with my Ds, I desperately needed the time with my new Zumba friends and my old friend of nearly twenty years.

Desperate may sound like an exaggeration, but I knew I was in a desperate time when I turned to DayQuil as first resort! Next, I decided to give the networking meeting I’d planned to attend a miss. I’d been looking forward to it, and brunch with a member afterward, but felt lousy enough that I knew I needed to rest if I had any hope of being up for two hours of dancing. I spent the day doing nothing more taxing than responding to emails and by 6PM felt as if I could at least get to the Zumbathon, even if I didn’t last the duration.

It shouldn’t have come as a surprise that as soon as I arrived, the palpable positive energy of all in attendance rejuvenated me. Back in 2014, following an emergency hysterectomy and a second surgery a few months prior, I experienced a breast cancer scare of my own, one where the doctors thought I was at stage four right up until the biopsy results. The benign tumor was large enough that it had to be removed anyway. It was a nightmare, but nothing compared to what the brave women fighting cancer actually live through. Dancing with the new friends I’ve made since I started doing Zumba to regain my health after my female diagnoses was and is such good medicine for me! I truly feel better when I’m dancing, especially when it’s For The Cure.

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Pink Collar Coach and new friends from Lakota YMCA Zumba.                                                           Even my athletic wear is Calvin Klein. LOL! Shoes are New Balance. 

Thankfully, this morning, Day 152 of the Project, there was no trace of a sore throat. I got an uninterrupted night’s sleep and woke up ready to dance again and to do my lunch date. Terri and I go back twenty years. Although we rarely see one another because of, well, life, whenever we do, it’s like we just pushed pause on our last conversation. At one point, when I was a Leadership Coach at 4C for Children, I told her about a vacancy and she came to work in the same department as my dear friend, Kibby. The three of us had a ball at Cracker Barrel just bonding over our personal and professional lives. Good food; good friends! As much was we all talked, Terri and Kibby made sure I got to talk about my troubles. Being able to openly share what I’ve been going through lifted the weight a bit, and it was so obvious that they were willing to help me bear it (Galatians 6:2). In addition, Terri had some personal (and hilarious) insight into the situation because she was around when I was married to my wasband! Laughter is also good medicine!

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Terri & me. Old Friends. Love this woman! My dear new friend of five years, Kibby, took the pic. Love her too. Calvin Klein cold shoulder w/ grommets and tie sleeves, maxi skirt, perforated bag. 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Chick who understands that some of life’s greatest lessons are those we learn as children, though I wasn’t a Girl Scout, I’ll use their admonition: Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver, the other is gold. The Bible tells us that someone who has one true friend is rich. I have many. Some silver. Some gold. All invaluable. All treasured.

How about you? When was the last time you connected with that old friend – not just on Facebook but in real time?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach