Make New Friends But Don’t Lose The Old

Make New Friends But Don’t Lose The Old

Yesterday, Day 151 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project started off rough. I had plans for the weekend to dance with my Zumba tribe Friday night and to do lunch with a dear friend from my teaching days today. Thursday night, however, I developed a sore throat. When I woke up yesterday morning after a fitful night’s sleep with what felt like the beginning of a cold, my first thought was, No, tonight’s Zumba for the Cure! My second was, And I’m supposed to have lunch with Terri tomorrow! Considering the week I’ve had dealing with my Ds, I desperately needed the time with my new Zumba friends and my old friend of nearly twenty years.

Desperate may sound like an exaggeration, but I knew I was in a desperate time when I turned to DayQuil as first resort! Next, I decided to give the networking meeting I’d planned to attend a miss. I’d been looking forward to it, and brunch with a member afterward, but felt lousy enough that I knew I needed to rest if I had any hope of being up for two hours of dancing. I spent the day doing nothing more taxing than responding to emails and by 6PM felt as if I could at least get to the Zumbathon, even if I didn’t last the duration.

It shouldn’t have come as a surprise that as soon as I arrived, the palpable positive energy of all in attendance rejuvenated me. Back in 2014, following an emergency hysterectomy and a second surgery a few months prior, I experienced a breast cancer scare of my own, one where the doctors thought I was at stage four right up until the biopsy results. The benign tumor was large enough that it had to be removed anyway. It was a nightmare, but nothing compared to what the brave women fighting cancer actually live through. Dancing with the new friends I’ve made since I started doing Zumba to regain my health after my female diagnoses was and is such good medicine for me! I truly feel better when I’m dancing, especially when it’s For The Cure.

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Pink Collar Coach and new friends from Lakota YMCA Zumba.                                                           Even my athletic wear is Calvin Klein. LOL! Shoes are New Balance. 

Thankfully, this morning, Day 152 of the Project, there was no trace of a sore throat. I got an uninterrupted night’s sleep and woke up ready to dance again and to do my lunch date. Terri and I go back twenty years. Although we rarely see one another because of, well, life, whenever we do, it’s like we just pushed pause on our last conversation. At one point, when I was a Leadership Coach at 4C for Children, I told her about a vacancy and she came to work in the same department as my dear friend, Kibby. The three of us had a ball at Cracker Barrel just bonding over our personal and professional lives. Good food; good friends! As much was we all talked, Terri and Kibby made sure I got to talk about my troubles. Being able to openly share what I’ve been going through lifted the weight a bit, and it was so obvious that they were willing to help me bear it (Galatians 6:2). In addition, Terri had some personal (and hilarious) insight into the situation because she was around when I was married to my wasband! Laughter is also good medicine!

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Terri & me. Old Friends. Love this woman! My dear new friend of five years, Kibby, took the pic. Love her too. Calvin Klein cold shoulder w/ grommets and tie sleeves, maxi skirt, perforated bag. 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Chick who understands that some of life’s greatest lessons are those we learn as children, though I wasn’t a Girl Scout, I’ll use their admonition: Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver, the other is gold. The Bible tells us that someone who has one true friend is rich. I have many. Some silver. Some gold. All invaluable. All treasured.

How about you? When was the last time you connected with that old friend – not just on Facebook but in real time?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

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Pink, Red and Pops of Purple – More Than The Colors in My Dress

Pink, Red and Pops of Purple – More Than The Colors in My Dress

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Pink Collar Coach in Calvin Klein wrap style dress with pink, reds, and pops of purple. Black cami keeps the V-neck from plunging too far. The handbag and pumps are also Calvin Klein. I don’t often wear red lipstick, but Maybelline’s On Fire Red has enough of a pink undertone to make it doable for me. If it looks as if I’m looking up, I am. My tall hubby was the photographer! All of other makeup is Maybelline as well – my go-to. Silver Moroccan pouf is one of my recent all-time best scores from Home Goods while the Aubusson needlepoint rug is a decade old TJMaxx find. Simply Shabby Chic sofa slipcover and pillows.

Day 94 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project provided an opportunity to be with family and to make new friends. Following the christening ceremony for our family’s newest member, we left church and went to celebrate at the parents’ home. There I had the pleasure of meeting a relative on the husband’s side who’s returned to town to access her support system. This amazing young woman, who I’ll call Cee, is dealing with an incredible challenge, yet from the short time I spent with her, though her body is under attack, I found her spirit to be indomitable.

I’m humbled and in awe that God continues to put women in my way. Many of them are fighting valiant emotional, physical, social and/or spiritual battles. My heart for them must show on my face because so often, even if perfect strangers, they share their stories with me and then tell me how much I’ve encouraged them. I’m always blown away by this because I’m beyond blessed by each and every encounter. Today was no exception. My new friend taught me about strength, tenacity and pursuing your dreams despite a dire prognosis.

I shared my own breast cancer scare with her and showed her pictures of the battle scar from where I had a giant growth that presented as malignant but turned out to be benign removed. We then traded stories about the changes our health challenges and hormones have wreaked on our bodies, including the need for a better bra! When Cee told me her age and I let her know I am actually two years older, she exclaimed, “Girl, you look good!”. And so does she. Three weeks past her latest chemo session and with no hair, Cee radiates true beauty.

One of the reasons I’ve come to love blogging so much is not only does it make me more mindful of  capturing meaningful moments after the fact, it makes me more so in the actual moment. So, as my time with Cee drew to a close because my big fat blended family had to go, I thought about what I was wearing and knew I’d remember it because of meeting her. The pink will remind me of my passion for women, especially those fighting health challenges, including breast cancer scare because of my own scare; the red will make me recall her valor; and the pop of purple will say, “She deserves a purple heart for positivity during her fight!”

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Chick who wants to maximize my unique God given strengths to coach, encourage and inspire women to live their best lives, all to His glory, I’m writing this blog and sending it to her as a first step in our relationship because what she said as she hugged me –  that she felt as if God had us meet – echoes my thoughts exactly. She’s a writer who writes plays about women! Wow. She’s so Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose! It just goes to show, when we live life on purpose, God puts special people in our path. Even if the original goal of the day was simply to post about wearing a dress with pink, red and pops of purple!

~Pink Collar Coach